The fact that husbands cannot mandate or manufacture this does not make it any less mandatory. Wives are to be submissive to their own husbands in everything. The marriage service rightly includes a vow for the bride to obey her husband.
Source: 21 Theses on Submission in Marriage, July 17, 2017, https://dougwils.com/books-and-culture/s7-engaging-the-culture/21-theses-submission-marriage.html