Sexism Is Not a Sin
If we admit that “sexism” is a sin, then the Bible is a sinful book.
In Douglas Wilson’s own words: 3 quotes from 1995 to 1999, from Reforming Marriage and Federal Husband, each cited to the source.
Nevertheless, the dominance of the husband is a fact; the only choice we have in this regard concerns whether that dominance will be a loving and constructive dominion or hateful and destructive tyranny. […] Conditioned by feminism, the modern world would dismiss this as a sexist gaffe in a sexist book, and they are at least partially correct. If we admit that “sexism” is a sin, then the Bible is a sinful book. But “sexism” is not a true sin, for sin can only be defined in terms of God’s law—it is not determined by the law of man or by the law of woman.
He has created us as male and female in such a way as to ensure that men will always be dominant in marriage. If the husband is godly, then that dominance will not be harsh; it will be characterized by the same self-sacrificial love demonstrated by our Lord—Dominus—at the cross.
The beginning of any honest treatment of the subject must be a frank admission that, when measured by our contemporary standards, the Bible is a sexist book. This would be a bad thing if sexism were truly a sin, but in the world God made, that is not the case.