Wives Must Have Sex Whenever Their Husbands Want It
Yes, she must have sex whenever you want it.
In Douglas Wilson’s own words: 3 quotes from 1999 to 2021, from Fidelity: What It Means to Be a One-Woman Man, The Gospel Truth and How to Exasperate Your Wife and Other Short Essays for Men, each cited to the source.
Must my wife have sex with me whenever I want it? Don’t be a fathead. It was a serious question. Yes, she must have sex whenever you want it. And you must refrain whenever she wants to refrain. You have authority over her body, but never forget that she also has authority over your body.
The Puritan and reformed view hammered out three basic reasons for sex. One is union and communion, fellowship together; one is propagation, having children, reproduction; and the third is prevention of immorality. Okay, so if a wife won't sleep with her husband, they are both—they're trying to be married in a world where plenty of other women will. Now if he strays, that's his sin, that's his adultery, he has no business doing that, but Paul says that this is a preventative... and this is also preventative when it comes to things like sexual temptation, sexual temptations like pornography.
The third complaint occurs when a wife is actively sinning against her husband, either through infidelity, gross lack of submission, refusal to have relations with him, and so on. If a woman is sinning in this way, a husband does not have the right to overlook the problem. If he cannot bring the situation around, then he is responsible to get help from the outside.