Wives Refusing to Submit to Their Husbands Is Why America Is in “the Godforsaken Shape It Is In”
So, am I maintaining that such petty domestic issues are the reason why America is in the godforsaken shape it is in?
In Douglas Wilson’s own words: 4 quotes from 2026, from Blog & Mablog, each cited to the source.
Not to put too fine a point on it, because so many wives refuse to be submissive to their own husbands, and because so many husbands have refused to take up the mantle of responsibility that was assigned to them by God, our marriages and our families have put everything else out of joint. In short, America is in the terrible shape it is in because you, Herbert T. Husband, apologized to your wife yesterday, not because you were in the wrong, but because you just wanted to make the conflict go away. America has got the spiritual staggers because you, Sally A. Wife, asked your husband what you should do about a particular situation, didn’t like what he said, and so you waited two days and went ahead with what you thought was clearly the better option... So, am I maintaining that such petty domestic issues are the reason why America is in the godforsaken shape it is in? Well, yes... Abandonment of responsible masculinity is a grave sin. Rejection of feminine responsiveness is a grave sin.
It is simply assumed that loving your wife means finding out what her desires are, and then just giving her what she wants, whatever that is. So long as those desires are not overtly sinful, it is thought that the husband’s job is to find out what pleases her, and then to please her. Now, this is an excellent approach when shopping for her birthday present, but it is a disastrous approach when it comes to your overall relationship. It is marriage bane. Here is why: her desires are not simple... ‘And thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee’ (Genesis 3:16). This desire for the husband is not a desire for a romantic weekend getaway or more special time together. It is a desire for mastery... In any relationship—roommates, friends, siblings, parent-child, or husband-wife—one person needs the other one more... the person who needs the other person less is the one who will tend to call the shots.
Each marriage, each family is a brick. The church is built out of these bricks. The civil society is built out of these bricks. And if most of the bricks are cracked or flawed because the wives are sly and manipulative, and the husbands are an amorphous jellied mass, who should be surprised when the houses built from these bricks are so rickety?
Were you dismayed by the midterms? And so you want to save America but don't know what to do? Start here. Wives, knock off the manipulative emotional games and submit to your husband. Obey him. Go into sweetheart mode. Husbands, lay yourselves out for your wife, taking full responsibility for her.